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Day 22– The Day After Santa Sleeps

This year the day after Christmas was quite eventful. For the first time ever, we celebrated Christmas with Jen’s family. It was a beautiful day filled with fun, tender moments and laughter. Jen’s Aunt and Uncle brought their dog Bonnie Ann who is a spunky mini Aussie and is all of 12 pounds. They were extremely concerned about how she was going to behave with Toby and Sedona. We tried to assure them that it would be fine.

When they arrived, we all dogs in toe walked outside to meet and greet. Toby as usually had a lot to say and so did Bonnie Ann. Sedona was her usually Sedona self. Then I just grabbed Toby and Bonnie’s leashes and we walked together. I tried to channel Caesar Milan as I walked them down the driveway. My energy was, I am in charge, you are both ok, and you will fall in line with the pack order. It worked. As I grabbed Sedona’s leash as well, we marched in all four of us into the house. (Little tip, you bring in a new dog to another dog’s space, it is best to bring them outside then in together. It saves a lot of fighting).

The rest of day, if either Toby or Bonnie got out of line, Sedona was right there. She would tap Bonnie on the but or jump in front of Toby and it worked. Sedona is the alpha female.

I guess that is how some families work too. Does yours? I know that my mother and her brothers’ held it together while my grandmother was alive and at least maintained somewhat civil relationships. Then all hell broke loose when she passed away. Weddings, birthdays, holidays, funerals all occassions that can bring out the best and worst or rather issues that need to be worked out.

Anyway, our day with Jen’s family was about building new connections, deeper relationships, and understanding that after 40years apart, a bond is a bond is a bond.

How was your holiday?

About Joy Rain

Joy has been a diversity and inclusion consultant and mediator for over ten years. Prior to consulting, she was professor of Psychology and Women Studies. Joy has a Master of Arts in Psychology (Boston University) and a Master of Education in Social Justice Education (UMASS Amherst).


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